Today is my birthday. I woke up and realized I was no longer sixty-seven. I’m sixty-eight. Officially a grown-up. Probably a senior citizen? Happy Birthday to me.
A friend of mine recently said that a birthday should celebrate the mother. How can you take credit for being born? Your mom carried you and gave birth to you. Ouch.
One year I did give my mom a card on my birthday and she loved it. She loved cards. She loved to receive them and to send them. I do, too. A funny kind of legacy.
My mother died on November 2, 2017. She was ninety-three. She won’t be here to celebrate. She loved birthdays. Especially the ice cream and cake… Even in her last months of life when she wasn’t doing so well, she loved cake. Me, too. Another legacy.
She was an intelligent and feisty woman. She managed her family, the budget and her house with a no kidding around competence. She had a soft and sentimental side that she tried to keep hidden. However tough she could be, she was a mush on birthdays.
No matter our financial circumstances, we always had a dinner of our choice, cake and ice cream, a carefully chosen and sentimental card and the best gift possible. We didn’t do dishes on our birthday.
We always said thank you, too.
I wonder, Mom, maybe you’re celebrating my birthday on a big cloud with Dad?
I hope you’re having a big piece of chocolate cake with chocolate ice cream with Dad. You couldn’t eat your beloved chocolate when you got older so I hope you’re having a lot of chocolate in heaven.
I know Dad is saying, “Just a little piece of cake.”
You’re saying, “Cut me a big piece.”
Thanks, Mom, today for giving me life. It’s been a good one so far.
***Photo Wildwood, New Jersey